Lately I have been thinking a lot about work-life balance. My wife is due with our second child a week or so after our first turns two, less than three weeks away. Then I read this blog entry by Guy Kawasaki, the former Mac evangelist, venture capitalist and blogger, that both amused and scared me. You can read the article here.
One of my great fears is that my kids are going to grow up while I work. I have entire years running Infinity Softworks that I don’t remember. But now the stakes are higher. I miss them growing up and they will either 1) spend their life in therapy because their father ignored them or 2) kill and rob people, ending up like some movie thug, because their dad wasn’t actively involved in their childhoods. An absentee father, they will tell the judge, made us do it — the robbery, the drugs, all of it.
At the same time, I am the sole income earner in the family as my wife stays home with the kids. She’s good at it and has tons of training. She was a certified teacher and taught pre-K through 1st grade for years. So how can I afford not to work as much as possible? Leaving my family on the streets is as bad as the whole drugs and robbery thing.
Conflicted, you say? Definitely. So my post today wasn’t an answer to the title; it actually is a question, albeit maybe a rhetorical one. I have been thinking about this for months now, coming to no conclusions.
I have heard from much wiser people than me that recognizing the fact that there is this issue is half the battle. Well, I recognize it. Now… what to do about it?